The Art of Subtlety

Ever get stuck with the daunting task of hosting a night for family or friends? Hosting feels like a never-ending list of tasks, including grocery shopping, cleaning, and cooking. And for a special occasion, that feels like the bare minimum. Holidays have a designated checklist at hand – Christmas has the décor, 4^th of July has the barbecue, and Holi has its colors, which sets the tone for the host. But when the checklist is blank, how does one add a certain je ne sais quoi to the ambience? How does one put in their own flair without going out of the way? 

1. Thoughtful Music, not sound – Music always sets the tone for a successful evening. Think of the people you are hosting, their likes and dislikes. Is there a type of music you enjoy as a group? The goal is always to play thoughtful music, and not just loud music (unless it’s DJ night, duh!) Think instrumental & jazz, the goal is atmosphere, not soundtrack.

   
   

2. Layered, low lighting – Was there ever a person who relaxed under a bright, hospital light? Nope. Swap the overhead lights for table lamps and wall sconces. Warm bulbs instantly soften a room and make your guests feel at home. Candles and string lights always add to the warmth. 

   
   

3. Lightly Scented – When done right, nothing hits a hosting home run like a scent does. A scent can make or break an evening. Just like a good scent can make a space feel pristine, a bad scent can make a clean space feel unsanitary. So, light a few candles around the home, put out some diffusers, or leave some fresh herbs simmering on the stove. 

   
   

A good way to think about your hosting experience is by walking the space like a guest would. The little things add to the experience: a place to put down your coat, a welcome drink, or enough water jugs around the room. All things said and done, your guests won’t enjoy themselves unless you are. So, relax and enjoy!!